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   theotherchildsmom

   107 Points

   02/04/10

   Smooth you have left valuable points that I am considering however, I know now if I go down that route, marriage is over as I always known, and my H doesn't want me to do that.  Our counselor stated that we must do what the other wants in order to fulfill our marital obligations, and also to decide in the best interest of our child.  That is why I posted good mom or bad mom and how to move forward from that.  In saying this, I believe that we are doing what is good for the moment as we have not done a pat test.  So I don't know what I will be like till then.  As it stands we are taking baby steps.  I just want to prepare for all of the explosion so I seek all of your attentions.  By the way I feel that your comments are absolutely valid and in all honesty I would have said the same.  I just never thought the shoe would be on my foot, I really don't know how I got here, but I need soul searching and all of you have taught me a valuable lesson.  Nothing is ever greener on the other side of the fence, in fact, its better being fenced in.
   

   02/05/10

   Reply from smooth:

   Smooth you have left valuable points that I am considering however, I know now if I go down that route, marriage is over as I always known, and my H doesn't want me to do that.  Our counselor stated that we must do what the other wants in order to fulfill our marital obligations, and also to decide in the best interest of our child. 
   
   Understood, ultimately the decision is all yours, I just hope I've given you some hint of future issues, which were very real for me, but could be less so for you.
   
   That is why I posted good mom or bad mom and how to move forward from that.  In saying this, I believe that we are doing what is good for the moment as we have not done a pat test.  So I don't know what I will be like till then.
   
   As has been said many times get that test if only for your own mental health!
   
    As it stands we are taking baby steps.  I just want to prepare for all of the explosion so I seek all of your attentions.  By the way I feel that your comments are absolutely valid and in all honesty I would have said the same.  I just never thought the shoe would be on my foot, I really don't know how I got here, but I need soul searching and all of you have taught me a valuable lesson.  Nothing is ever greener on the other side of the fence, in fact, its better being fenced in.
   
   You might want to consider www.marriagebuilders.com to help with your relationship with your husband, it worked wonders for me.
   

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   AngelGurl5

   125 Points

   08/22/08

   Hi Smooth!
   
   I am a fellow adult OC from the OC board.
   
   I just wanted to tell you that I have enjoyed your contributions on the board. OWs don't like us, so what. We tell them what they need to hear.
   
   Take care.
   
   

   12/05/08

   Reply from smooth:

   AngelGirl,
   
   Sorry not very savvy with these boards, Thank You for the compliment, you had messaged to me back in August of this year, its 2008, in case you don't visit here that often. Since it is so long I copied your message.
   
   I am a fellow adult OC from the OC board.
   
   I just wanted to tell you that I have enjoyed your contributions on the board. OWs don't like us, so what. We tell them what they need to hear.
   
   Good to hear from you, I think in affairs and OC circumstances the children are often forgotten, and the perspective of the adults is somewhat skewed by the high level of emotions involved. I think especially the financial aspect is ignored and unfortuantely leads to hardship where it could have been avoided.
   
   This is so true for many women I have know, they don't pursue their ex-husbands etc for support and then are burdened with carrying their familys alone. Did I rant again?
   
   God Bless
   Smooth
   
   
   
   

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